Keep A-Goin'

Hm. In the one week I've been on the dating site, all but one of the men who've contacted me seem not to have read my profile.
It's hard to say for sure. Mostly they don't write anything themselves. They use one of the formula responses the site offers, such as, "I like your profile, please contact me."

I go look at their profile, and I can't see any connection. Often we're an actual bad match.

My profile says that I am nonreligious/agnostic, for instance. 
The profile of one guy who contacted me said his main goal is "an authentic relationship with Jesus Christ."
Lotta that out there.

I changed my profile to "Atheist".
That's almost a belief-system in itself these days, and it usually means anti-religion, which I'm very much not. So I don't normally claim it, but I want to be clear, in case anyone does read my profile. If a relationship with JC is someone's top priority, they probably would not be happy in a relationship with me.

I know some of them may be scam profiles, but mostly I see a lot of this kind of message, which seems all too genuine:

I'm not replying to anyone who doesn't write me a sentence of their own. Preferably more than one.

I've paid for six months on this site. I'll stick with it, but wow, yeah--the truth of the situation is becoming clear.

I don't know that love will/would come through the site anyway.
The point of signing up, I think, was maybe more about me signaling "to the universe" (i.e. to myself) that I am open to love.

That doesn't mean love will come, of course, but as I've learned at my summer's house sitting gig, if a door is open, a chipmunk is more likely to come in.

A friend of bink's emailed me encouragement yesterday. This guy, who is my age, just married someone he met online this spring!
That may seem kooky fast, but bink says the two seem truly well suited.

The friend wrote me:

"I had just about given up on ever meeting someone. Finding a nice guy is really hard. I literally was about to be done with the whole thing and just go through the 2nd half single. Then surprise! the universe presents me with J.

I hope you find someone awesome. They will be very lucky to be in a relationship with you"

Keep a-goin'. Remember that awful-on-purpose song from the great movie Nashville?  Henry Gibson, who plays C/W star Haven Hamilton, wrote it. Not that that's hard to believe.

Ain't no use to sit and whine
When the fish ain't on your line;
Bait your hook and keep a-tryin'
Keep a-goin'!