tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post6166420020406743379..comments2024-03-18T15:17:26.003-05:00Comments on l'astronave: "This is going to be wonderful."Frescahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-470645683497743022014-12-18T18:52:45.749-06:002014-12-18T18:52:45.749-06:00Thank you, Lady C!
I had given up buying wine a fe...Thank you, Lady C!<br />I had given up buying wine a few weeks ago, but for this season, I decided a big bottle of Chardonnay was acceptable. :)<br />Sending best wishes to you around your dad's birthday too.Frescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-67887941304295750332014-12-18T09:31:21.036-06:002014-12-18T09:31:21.036-06:00My friend, I am so sorry that you're feeling p...My friend, I am so sorry that you're feeling pain during this relentlessly "happy" time of year. I echo the suggestion to be especially kind to yourself. Also, do not hesitate to ask for help or a little kindness when you need it. Our human connections are what will save us in the end, and allowing another person to be a giver is in itself a gift. Sending many warm and loving thoughts your icy way!Lady Chardonnayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04465347726701888182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-69100321629194374962014-12-16T20:50:47.775-06:002014-12-16T20:50:47.775-06:00I *really* love that idea, Zhoen, and shall kee my...I *really* love that idea, Zhoen, and shall kee my eyes open for a gift of some sort.<br /><br />Another friend said something similar at the funeral of a dear old friend of mine a few years ago--that she encouraged me to be watchful over the next space of time.<br /><br />I thought it was nice but a little woo-woo; however when I was walking around the lake a few days after the funeral, a tag with a big bold number <b>8</b> on it stared up at me from the walk.<br />My dead friend identified with the 8, liking that turned sideways it's the symbol of infinity, and she had 8s all over her home.<br /><br />I picked that tag up and have it propped up on my bookshelf--I can see it from where I write, a reminder of my friend, and infinity...<br /><br />Fresca, signed in as Frex<br />Frexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13191192404386975664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-4951240386692756382014-12-16T18:40:42.503-06:002014-12-16T18:40:42.503-06:00Or if the ghost wants to give you something... . ...Or if the ghost wants to give you something... . I got a shopping cart full of lumber. Whatever form it takes, when you see it, you'll know who it's from. Zhoenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515663141425057088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-50917826712441939682014-12-16T17:46:25.087-06:002014-12-16T17:46:25.087-06:00Your kindness brings tears to my eyes, Crow.
The r...Your kindness brings tears to my eyes, Crow.<br />The roots of the word "sympathy" mean "fellow feeling" and I thank you for extending it, as a motherless friend.<br /><br />... and, I am happy to report, the day turned out pretty OK, which is close enough to "wonderful" for me.<br /><br />Ginger schnapps! The Hungry Ghosts are hopping around in the background promising they will be every so slightly more cheerful if they get some---I must go shopping asap. :)<br />(Really---a friend is taking me to Costco this evening--she's a member and I go with her every so often to stock up on t.p. and heavy stuff like dish- and laundry soap--I shall stop and see if I can find some of this wonderful-sounding stuff.)<br /><br />Bless you.<br />--Frex/FrescaFrexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13191192404386975664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-50041880480542551182014-12-16T09:21:48.092-06:002014-12-16T09:21:48.092-06:00I've found the only person who can truly cheer...I've found the only person who can truly cheer me up is me...uh, should that be 'I'?<br /><br />Point is, feeding the hungry ghost is a sometimes necessary thing to do in dealing with grief, no matter the source, but especially one that lives so viscerally with us, as does yours.<br /><br />My mother died on 12-23-71, was buried on Christmas Day. I tell you this not for sympathy (unnecessary), but to let you know it took almost 40 years before I could face this time of year with joy instead of drowning sadness - despite my best efforts to repress it. I am okay now, and you will reach your okay point, too.<br /><br />(I hear the Grief Ghosts also like a shot of brandy or ginger schnapps and a decadent chocolate bon-bon or two. That was my experience, anyway.)<br /><br />Be kind to yourself during the Hungry Ghost season, and it just might turn out wonderful. Take care, friend.<br /><br />The Crowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04846997590157958766noreply@blogger.com