tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post4707868125832573315..comments2024-03-18T15:17:26.003-05:00Comments on l'astronave: Could "nonviolence" include not-running-away (from the person who annoys you)?Frescahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-40377299575871704272015-01-26T11:46:38.312-06:002015-01-26T11:46:38.312-06:00SPARKER: Niceness as a hostile defense---yes. This...SPARKER: Niceness as a hostile defense---yes. This reminds me of another blogger mentioning a class called "Coping with Difficult People"--the category includes people who are "super-agreeable/super-unreliable".Frescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-73453151536474082402015-01-25T16:04:04.679-06:002015-01-25T16:04:04.679-06:00chopping a marshmallow with a hatchet
bears some ...chopping a marshmallow with a hatchet<br /><br />bears some relation to being stabbed to death with a rubber knife...<br /><br />In any case, have to deal with this myself, with one of my father's carers. Niceness can be a sometimes hostile defense.ArtSparkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04875996639432864367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-52906648498944608472015-01-23T20:55:08.885-06:002015-01-23T20:55:08.885-06:00Zzzzzingggg! Look at your response to me, fresca. ...Zzzzzingggg! Look at your response to me, fresca. Just put it out into the big universe and you never know what might happen.poodletailnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-89180745668995033522015-01-22T07:41:59.285-06:002015-01-22T07:41:59.285-06:00JULIA: That's it: I don't trust someone wh...JULIA: That's it: I don't trust someone who's so shiny.<br /><br />Glad you too like the "things I have failed to do" line.<br />Hm... that could be a book title, <br />"Things I Have Failed to Do".<br /><br />Yes, I too think it's overlooked---maybe because Americans are such take-action people?<br />The John Wayne School of Ethics and Morality. <br /><br />Thanks, I am trying what I can to see how I can make this place work for me (so I can work there), adn yeah, I am having to screw up my courage.<br />We shall see...<br />Frescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-70846266657574099142015-01-21T14:22:08.674-06:002015-01-21T14:22:08.674-06:00That kind of shine is bad for trust--we all know i...That kind of shine is bad for trust--we all know it's a lie! It's like people who can't admit when they're wrong. I need to calibrate people for who they are and posturing omniscience or unbrokenness are both impossible. When people (especially those in power) fake those characteristics, it's so counterproductive to teamwork, motivation, community, solidarity, etc.<br /><br />I love (love love!) that line of the confiteor as well. Looking at the negative space, the places where I am not and I have not acted and where my apathy or silence has caused pain/violence or allowed pain/violence to continue without checks or witnesses. I feel like that's overlooked in most popularized views of morality and ethical behavior, which tend to focus only on the visible and the actionable. It's just as important to ask who is not at the table, who is not included. <br /><br />I am glad to hear that you are pushing yourself to take advantage of what you can learn and experiment with in this situation before potentially moving on. That takes courage!Juliahttp://happifydesign.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-43608718027158180302015-01-21T07:58:26.072-06:002015-01-21T07:58:26.072-06:00POODLE: "Hope for the best, expect the worst&...POODLE: "Hope for the best, expect the worst" as they sing in Mel Brooks's <i>The Twelve Chairs</i>.<br /><br />A shitty job, managing *me*? <br /><br />No, I know what you mean. I would not want her job at all. I think if she would communicate & collaborate MORE with me, it would lighten her load---we could truly do more together than we can alone.Frescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-5408069451109940962015-01-19T20:56:24.903-06:002015-01-19T20:56:24.903-06:00"Lowering expectations and raising my courage..."Lowering expectations and raising my courage": thank you, fresca. This is now officially my motto for 2015. <br /><br />I look forward to learning how this meeting turned out for you. <br /><br />Your boss? She has a shitty job.poodletailnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-11905230942190652652015-01-19T18:18:14.213-06:002015-01-19T18:18:14.213-06:00Thank you, thank you, Zhoen, for knowing what I me...Thank you, thank you, Zhoen, for knowing what I mean! <br />I wrote this is a fog of dismay and wondered if it would make any sense.<br />It's really nice to get this recognition.<br /><br />And you add a good point:<br />" Only when I have someone to fight for will I stand and speak."<br /><br />It helps me to remember that I do this work and try to improve the conditions not just for me but for the residents, who can't speak up for themselves anymore.<br /><br />Frescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-82625363115433416482015-01-19T18:00:18.992-06:002015-01-19T18:00:18.992-06:00Your boss sounds so like mine. I can see all the ...Your boss sounds so like mine. I can see all the cracks through her, but she is shiny and absolutely certain, and flares to anger at any hint of contradiction, mostly in her own imagination.<br /><br />As for the running away, you speak straight into my quitting heart. Only when I have someone to fight for will I stand and speak. <br /><br />We see in others not what is there, but what is in ourselves. The more they irritate, the more important the lesson we need to learn from them. Which sucks, and I've usually just walked away rather than deal. Zhoenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515663141425057088noreply@blogger.com