tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post6084204035727570717..comments2024-03-18T15:17:26.003-05:00Comments on l'astronave: Thrift Break?Frescahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-71127964955870187682016-01-10T10:28:12.771-06:002016-01-10T10:28:12.771-06:00P.S. I can't believe I sound as if I am advoca...P.S. I can't believe I sound as if I am advocating for more committee meetings!<br />Ugh.<br /><br />But, yeah, I think that's what's needed:<br />a forum for discussion and decision making.<br /><br />But committees have to be well regulated, not like the farce of a committee I sat on for the Thrift Store last year.<br />That wasn't a committee, it was a Rubber Stamp that read<br />WE'VE ALWAYS DONE IT THIS WAY.<br /><br />A well-regulated committee... it seems like an impossible dream...Frescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-64513344843366700052016-01-10T10:23:29.375-06:002016-01-10T10:23:29.375-06:00Yelling vs. Silence
Both can be an abuse of power....Yelling vs. Silence<br />Both can be an abuse of power.<br /><br />Silence was my father's power play: he used it as a kind of shunning. He would keep it up for days, not even saying hello. Shudder.<br /><br />I can see how yelling would silence a kid too (or an adult!).<br /><br />With my history, and for my temperament (since I can yell back), I'd prefer yelling, though I *don't* like it.<br />What I'd really like is a discussion!<br /><br />I've heard that said about academia---the fights are vicious because the stakes are low,<br />but I don't think most human conflict is only, or even primarily, about the physical stakes (the corner office, shared resources, letting the dog on the couch)---<br />I think the "stakes" at the Thrift Store are the usual culprits:<br /><br />fear [you are making me uncomfortable],<br />pride [how dare you threaten my sense of worth?],<br />habit [we've always done it this way],<br />control [this is my turf (emotional, physical, spiritual, or whatever)],<br />etc.<br /><br />I think the "answer" to the conflicts is good governance:<br />fair, inclusive, regular meetings of the people involved, with smart rules of engagement (like, set amounts of time people can talk, established voting procedures, etc.).<br />The Thrift Store doesn't have that.Frescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7229875339727095184.post-91736058002610546772016-01-10T08:31:40.342-06:002016-01-10T08:31:40.342-06:00Funny, I'd much prefer someone walk away from ...Funny, I'd much prefer someone walk away from me than yell. <br /><br />Is it that the politics are so ugly, because the stakes are so low?<br />Zhoenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515663141425057088noreply@blogger.com